Who’s listening? What Our Kids are Trying to Tell us? Dispensing the Ways to Crack the Code of Youth

A child or adolescent has a turning age that needs immense attention. Being a Parent, it is important to know what attitudes, values, personality temperament, and life experiences a child brings to school and then to home. Research consistently shows the generation gap between us and the world of teenagers we are continually witnessing, gives rise to many such misconceptions, and mounts the differences in thoughts that draw a thick line between teens and their parents. 

Johnston believes to dispel such misconceptions; we must better understand the world where teenagers live in-- and that we begin listening to the cries for help from what may become a lost generation.  As one of America’s leading authorities on youth culture, Dr. Jerry receives thousands of letters each year. Jerry comes across with varying levels of specific problems that teen’s face that may result in internal and external sorrows. 

The Critical Problems That Are Seen Most Common In Teens That Internally And Externally Affect Them Are:

•  They often face difficulty with social relationships.

• They escape and refuse to do routine, repetitive assignments.
• They forget scratching their own itch and instead do inappropriate criticism of others.
•  At the same time they lack the awareness that what would be the impact on others.
•  Lack of sufficient challenge in schoolwork.
• Depression (often manifested in boredom) when they get loner.
• They undergo high levels of anxiety, difficulty accepting criticism.
• Sometimes students also do the mistake of hiding their own talents to fit with peers.

• Nonconformity and resistance to authority. 
• They dip their toes in excessive competitiveness, which makes them feel inferior when they fail to commit their best.
•   Isolation from peers is also one of the primal reasons.
• Low frustration tolerance and poor study habits, that make parents yell on them.

Listening to Your Kids:

 

Listening to your kids is a skill many parents may not have, but can easily acquire. There are many inspiring books and blogs on same, but what keeps utmost significance is “Are the words coming from an experienced author, who has the worldly understanding of the life of teenagers?” “Is the author enriched with Christianity teachings?” so that he can relate his thoughts on the grounds of teachings of Christ.

Dr. Jerry Johnston is the ideal example of such an author. Having authored myriad of influential books, Johnston has also penned: -- “Who’s listening? What Our Kids are trying to tell us?”

 

This book covers in detail all the topics that provoke a child to commit suicide. Jerry has also extended his dimensions on intimate topics like AIDS, the occult and may more that directly or indirectly connects to the world of teen. Johnston believes and has tried to explain in this book that parents need to understand the world their teenagers live in–and that we begin listening to the cries for help from what may become a lost generation. 

Communicating with kids in an assertive way is a real skill yet it shows your kids that mum and dad know what they’re going on about and to listen. 

The WAY we talk to our children has a huge impact on their learning and ability to listen to us. We are constantly modeling to our kids how to act and behave and the way we talk to them fits right into this category.

Here Are Few Influencing Tips For Improving The WAY We Talk To Our Kids:

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•          Connect With Your Child: Do you believe in eye contact? If not, you have to. Always talk to your children getting down to their level. This is the right way to chat with your kids. It is important that they give you their attention, and you should model the same behavior for them.
   
  

  
  
  
  
• Use Your Tone Appropriately: Raising your voice in an urgent situation should not be ignored. If you do not use the volume of your voice appropriately for the majority of the time, it may lead to sudden shock to your child.   

You should follow practice such as: - Walking into their room, joining them for a minute or two and go down with far more cooperation with them. Doing such things, you are modeling respectful behavior to start with your kid and as you have come to them with your direction, so they know you mean it!   

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• Give Your Child Space:  When the child begins with-- avoiding replying on your questions in full statements, or by simply nodding head with one syllable answers then probably it’s the time for you to give them space.  

• Inspire Your Child:

  

Try to have inspiring conversations that give children a sense of what is important.   

Following these small fundamentals, you can be the happy parent of the happy kid!  Amen! God Bless everyone.